091 | When You’ve Tried Everything

Do you feel like you’ve tried everything to get your money under control, and nothing has worked?

Many lawyers tell me some version of this statement. It’s a very common sentiment, but it’s also one of the most unhelpful things you can tell yourself when you’re working to achieve your money goals.

In this episode, let’s talk about the actual belief underlying this statement, why it’s holding you back from achieving your goals, and what to do instead.

Topics Discussed

• the true belief underlying the statement “I’ve tried everything”
• how you approach your goal believing you’ve tried everything
• why believing you’ve tried everything is so unhelpful
• what to do if you find yourself in this place of believing you’ve tried everything

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Resources mentioned

Episode 70: Your Money Is Not Happening to You

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Transcript

Hey friend. Welcome back to the show. I hope you’re doing well and having an amazing day so far. Today we are talking about what to do when you’ve tried everything to get your finances under control. So many lawyers tell me something to the effect like some version of I feel like I’ve tried everything and nothing’s working. And I want to address it here because it’s one of the most unhelpful things you can tell yourself when you’re learning to manage your money. When you tell yourself that you’ve tried everything and still haven’t figured out your finances or gotten a handle on your money, what you’re really telling yourself is that it’s impossible for you to achieve your money goal. If you don’t believe it’s even possible for you to do something, how are you going to approach that thing? You’re probably not going to even take steps to try to do it. Or you may try something, but you don’t give it your full effort because you’re going in expecting to fail, looking for when it’s gonna stop working. That is not how you achieve a goal, my friend. That is exactly how you ensure you don’t achieve your goal. And when you’re telling yourself You’ve tried everything and nothing is working. One thing I know for sure you haven’t tried is changing your mindset. The way you’re thinking about managing your money and your ability to do it is the biggest reason you haven’t been able to make the progress you want. Again because you’re telling yourself it’s basically impossible. It’s important to be really honest with yourself about that statement. I’ve tried everything. Because if that were true, then that would mean that there’s nothing you can do. Where do you go from there? You would be completely powerless to do anything to change your situation. And we both know that’s not true, right? If you had tried literally everything, then you’d have the financial situation you want or be well on your way to creating it. And if you don’t have that, it means you have not tried everything. It’s kind of like what we talked about with putting your finances outside of your control as if it’s just happening to you. As if you don’t have to actually do the things that you need to do to achieve what you want to be able to stop overspending or save the money or pay off the debt or whatever your goal is. Let’s be real. All the things work. Right every kind of budget out there. Every kind of money management system, every debt strategy, they all work for somebody. And when you’re talking about the things that you’ve tried that have not worked, you have to remember that the common denominator in all of it is you. So what is it that you’re doing or not doing to make it not work for yourself? What is it that you are not seeing that the people it works for are seeing them? How are you looking at the things you’ve tried versus the way people those things have worked for are looking at them? One example I know I’ve talked about before, is with budgeting. When people make a budget and then they get off track one month, and they just throw the whole budget away. Right It typically takes time to get on top of your budget, especially if you haven’t been budgeting before. It takes time to really get a handle on your spending. So you might create a budget and blow it the first month, maybe even the second month. But if you keep going and don’t tell yourself, oh well, it’s just not working. I might as well give up. Then eventually you’re going to get it and you’ll be able to manage your money the way you want and have money to achieve your goals. If you’ve truly tried everything, there’s nothing more for you to try. Versus Okay. I’ve tried these things. Let me evaluate why they haven’t worked. What is it that I’m missing here? Instead of looking at all the things you’ve done, that haven’t worked, try looking at what else you could be doing looking at something else you can try looking at how you could approach something you’ve already done differently. It’s never helpful to tell yourself you’ve tried everything because you literally haven’t. There are plenty of things that you haven’t tried. So are you willing to keep going and try 10 more things 20 more things? Like how much more are you willing to try to achieve the goal that you have? If you’re not willing to try anything else? That’s fine. But don’t tell yourself that you’ve tried everything and there’s nothing else to try. Be honest with yourself that it’s a choice you’re making, not to try new things. And if you’re ready to change your mindset about your money and finally achieve your goals, come work with me. You can head to rho thomas.com/call to schedule your consultation. Alright, so that’s it for this week’s episode. Come join me over on social media and let’s continue this conversation. At I am rho Thomas on Instagram and rho Thomas on LinkedIn. Subscribe to the show and leave a review both of which help more people to find it. And please share it with a friend or two who you think would find it useful. As we close out friend, I pray that you will be honest with yourself about the statement. I’ve tried everything. I pray that you will evaluate the things you’ve already tried and identify what you can do differently going forward. And as always, I pray that you continue to take steps to regain control of your time, build wealth and live the life of freedom and choice you deserve. Talk to you later.